Frequently Asked Questions:
Q: What is a caregiver?
A: A caregiver is anyone who provides help to another person in need. Usually, the person receiving care has a condition such as dementia, cancer, or brain injury and needs help with basic daily tasks. Caregivers help with many things such as:
using the toilet
People who are not paid to provide care are known as informal caregivers or family caregivers. The most common type of informal caregiving relationship is an adult child caring for an elderly parent. Other types of caregiving relationships include:
adults caring for other relatives, such as grandparents, siblings, aunts, and uncles
spouses caring for elderly husbands or wives
middle-aged parents caring for severely disabled adult children
adults caring for friends and neighbors
children caring for a disabled parent or elderly grandparent
Q: Who are our nation’s caregivers?
A: Most Americans will be informal caregivers at some point during their lives. During any given year, there are more than 44 million Americans (21% of the adult population) who provide unpaid care to an elderly or disabled person 18 years or older. Altogether, informal caregivers provide 80 percent of the long-term care in the United States.
Sixty-one percent of caregivers are women.
Most caregivers are middle-aged.
Thirteen percent of caregivers are aged 65 years and older.
Fifty-nine percent of informal caregivers have jobs in addition to caring for another person. Because of time spent caregiving, more than half of employed women caregivers have made changes at work, such as going in late, leaving early, or working fewer hours.
Q: What is caregiver stress?
A: Caregiver stress is the emotional and physical strain of caregiving. It can take many forms. For instance, you may feel:
frustrated and angry taking care of someone with dementia who often wanders away or becomes easily upset
guilty because you think that you should be able to provide better care, despite all the other things that you have to do
lonely because all the time you spend caregiving has hurt your social life
exhausted when you go to bed at night
Caregiver stress appears to affect women more than men. About 75 percent of caregivers who report feeling very strained emotionally, physically, or financially are women.
Although caregiving can be challenging, it is important to note that it can also have its rewards. It can give you a feeling of giving back to a loved one. It can also make you feel needed and can lead to a stronger relationship with the person receiving care. About half of caregivers report that:
they appreciate life more as a result of their caregiving experience
caregiving has made them feel good about themselves
Q: Can caregiver stress affect my health?
A: Although most caregivers are in good health, it is not uncommon for caregivers to have serious health problems. Research shows that caregivers:
are more likely to be have symptoms of depression or anxiety
are more likely to have a long-term medical problem, such as heart disease, cancer, diabetes, or arthritis
have higher levels of stress hormones
spend more days sick with an infectious disease
have a weaker immune response to the influenza, or flu, vaccine
have slower wound healing
have higher levels of obesity
may be at higher risk for mental decline, including problems with memory and paying attention
One research study found that elderly people who felt stressed while taking care of their disabled spouses were 63 percent more likely to die within 4 years than caregivers who were not feeling stressed.
Part of the reason that caregivers often have health problems is that they are less likely to take good care of themselves. For instance, women caregivers, compared with women who are not caregivers, are less likely to:
get needed medical care
fill a prescription because of the cost
get a mammogram
Also, caregivers report that, compared with the time before they became caregivers, they are less likely to:
get enough sleep
cook healthy meals
get enough physical activity
Q: How can I tell if caregiving is putting too much stress on me?
A: Caregiving may be putting too much stress on you if you have any of the following symptoms:
sleeping too much or too little
gaining or losing a lot of weight
feeling tired most of the time
loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy
becoming easily irritated or angered
feeling constantly worried
often feeling sad
frequent headaches, bodily pain, or other physical problems
abuse of alcohol or drugs, including prescription drugs
Talk to a counselor, psychologist, or other mental health professional right away if your stress leads you to physically or emotionally harm the person you are caring for.
Q: What can I do to prevent or relieve stress?
A: To begin with, never dismiss your feelings as “just stress.” Caregiver stress can lead to serious health problems and you should take steps to reduce it as much as you can.
Research shows that people who take an active, problem-solving approach to caregiving issues are less likely to feel stressed than those who react by worrying or feeling helpless. For instance, someone with dementia may ask the same question over and over again, such as, “Where is Mary?” A positive way of dealing with this would be to say, “Mary is not here right now,” and then distract the person. You could say, “Let’s start getting lunch ready,” or involve the person in simple tasks, such as folding laundry.
Some hospitals offer classes that can teach you how to care for someone with the disease that your loved one is facing. To find these classes, ask your doctor, contact an organization that focuses on this disease, or call your local Area Agency on Aging (see below). Other good sources of caregiving information include:
doctors and nurses
web sites of disease-specific organizations
Here are some more tips for reducing stress:
Find out about caregiving resources in your community (see below).
Ask for and accept help. Be prepared with a mental list of ways that others can help you, and let the helper choose what she would like to do. For instance, one person might be happy to take the person you care for on a walk a couple times a week. Someone else might be glad to pick up some groceries for you.
If you need financial help taking care of a relative, don’t be afraid to ask family members to contribute their fair share.
Say “no” to requests that are draining, such as hosting holiday meals.
Don’t feel guilty that you are not a “perfect” caregiver. Just as there is no “perfect parent,” there is no such thing as a “perfect caregiver.” You’re doing the best you can.
Identify what you can and cannot change. You may not be able to change someone else’s behavior, but you can change the way that you react to it.
Set realistic goals. Break large tasks into smaller steps that you can do one at a time.
Prioritize, make lists, and establish a daily routine.
Stay in touch with family and friends.
Join a support group for caregivers in your situation, such as caring for someone with dementia. Besides being a great way to make new friends, you can also pick up some caregiving tips from others who are facing the same problems you are.
Make time each week to do some¬thing that you want to do, such as go to a movie.
Try to find time to be physically active on most days of the week, eat a healthy diet, and get enough sleep.
See your doctor for a checkup. Tell her that you are a caregiver and tell her about any symptoms of depression or sickness you may be having.
Try to keep your sense of humor.
If you work outside the home and are feeling overwhelmed, consider taking a break from your job. Employees covered under the federal Family and Medical Leave Act may be able to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave per year to care for relatives. Ask your human resources office about options for unpaid leave…
The actual article is much longer and you find it at womenshealth.gov, along with a lot more great caregiver information. A little later I will be talking a lot about Guided Imagery as a very effective, inexpensive, and quick way to reduce your stress substantially. If you need a sneak peak go to www.caregiverrelief.com, or see the blog at www.easycaregiving.com or www.discoverlongevitynow.com